Sunday, June 21, 2009

Fear of success?

I've had more bad hair days in the past couple of weeks than I've had in the whole year prior. And I just can't take it anymore! Especially since those bad hair days were all the result of straying from combos that I already know work for me. (By the way, that's not a photo of me. She looks a little better than yours truly of late.)

What the heck goes on in my mind, I wonder, when I decide to forego the tried and true in favor of the unknown? Do you do this too? Maybe I think I'll discover something new. Or maybe I just have a subconscious wish to look less than pretty. The old "fear of success" phenomenon. (Which, according to that link, I actually do have. Awesome.)

So what's to be done? I hereby vow, for at least this coming week, to use only products and combos that I know will work for me. Things I've tried before and really liked. This experimentation stuff has got to stop. I am sabotaging myself!

Plus, I really do need a haircut. That's probably not helping matters.

Anybody else want to go in on this pact with me?


Paula said...

I should join you, lol.

I tried a new conditioner this week that was chock full of amino acids. I SHOULD know better. i was thinking that my hair was so well behaved now that I could try new and previously forbidden things.

Wrong answer.

The only reason my hair can stay well behaved is to stay away from the stuff I hate - even if everyone else likes it.

DEL said...

Oh Gosh YES! I have boxes full of Products that a certain curly had mailed to my house. She's going to be visiting and is saving money on shipping ;) GREAT for her BAD BAD BAD for me. I don't have time to experiment anymore, I've had a schedule change and can't risk bad days! I keep wanting to try CJ stuff but I'm really trying to be good here...Seriously I've got way too much stuff and not enough days to use them all. I need to STOP and only use what works..Sigh... It's a curse....

Shantyana said...

I know what this is like. -_-

Somewhat unrelated -
I was reading your past posts, especially ones about conditioners. If you don't mind I have a few questions.

For winter, when moisture is needed which conditioner did you find the best? I used AOHR, not everyday though and it seemed to work well.

* Mentioning AO - I see you like the MM and the B5 gel (I believe that's the name). Have you tried the MM with BRHG?

For summer, which conditioner do you like?

Sage Vivant said...

Hi Shantyana. I am always uncomfortable making recommendations for others because everybody's hair and environment are so different, but you asked, so I will tell you what I like!

In winter, I did like AOHR, but I found myself using Too Shea, Aloeba, and EO Rose and Chamomile most often.

According to my trusty spreadsheet, I tried a mix of Donna Marie Lock & Twist and AOMM, then applied B5. Result: frizz. And this is a perfect example of the self-sabotage I am famous for! I already knew Lock & Twist was not great but thought that with the addition of something else, it might work. WRONG! If only I'd just tried AOMM and BRHG together with nothing else, I might have achieved nirvana. Why don't you give it a try and let me know how it goes? I promise to try it too!

For summer -- and please remember that San Francisco summers do not produce the high dew points you get many other places -- I am happy alternating between EO Rose & Chamomile and Aubrey's GPB. Sometimes I will use Aloeba, too.

Good luck!

Shantyana said...

Thanks for the response.

I will probably buy both the B5 gel and the Jelly, since together they are cheaper than KCCC. I will let you know how it goes.

I am not sure if GPB or EO will work for me, I believe both have protein?

Anonymous said...

I need to join you.

I have conditioners, shampoos, and styling products that have consistently given me great results every time I go back to them. But do I stick with them? No. I'm almost compelled to sabotage myself and try out another product. Doesn't help that I've got 5 boxes 7 boxes worth of product to go through.

Sage Vivant said...

Shantyana, yes, both conditioners have protein, but the EO has much less than the GPB, which is loaded with it. That's why I trade off between them.

Once upon a time said...

I think as women we are always looking for "something better" and trying to acheive perfection. When that doesn't happen we feel defeated and like something is wrong with us. I am still trying to KISS with my products and routines and although I've changed it a little bit in the last 18 months since I've been on, it really wasn't a radical departure from my old routine. Like they say, If it ain't broke, don't fix it! :)

Raina said...

I think we believe that perfection could be just one combo away! I think its why one arm bandits are so successful.

I just got my hair cut two days ago, and it was the best thing I could have done. I kept putting it off because I wanted to give my hair time to transition (this is just my first month CG). I'm glad I went ahead and did it. It loooOOOoooooks so much better. I went ahead and got rid of the blue streak too. I think it clashed with all my warm colors! haha.

Shantyana said...

I finally bought and tried AOMM and AOB5. My latest entry is about them, w/ pictures. I like them a lot, especially the MM. I'll be buying this instead of KCCC. I am not sure if the B5 has enough hold for me so I use BRHG (my go to product) with MM and B5.

Weird smell but I like it. =D

Wanda said...

I will offer an alternate perspective. Many products are "marketed" to certain curl types i.e., AfroDetangler to 3C/4's. In the past, I would not have even considered trying them. Since coming to, I've learned to understand my hair better and what it needs. I follow certain posters to see what they're trying and liking.

My summer routine from last year was co-wash and condition with Kenra, then 4-6 puddles of CK and done. My hair looked pretty good and I go 7 days without having to do anything to it. But I never really liked it until Day 3 or later. I could easily have gone back to that routine this summer.

Instead, because of my stalking, I took a chance and tried a bunch of new things. Honestly, I don't think my hair's ever looked better. That being said, they were brand new products to me and not ones I had tried in the past unsuccessfully.

Thanks for holding those boxes for a certain curly del. lol